Problem is, the book assumes we have a fail safe option that will eventually get the child off to sleep. We don't. The only way we can guarantee to get Elijah to sleep and stay asleep is to have him fall asleep on our shoulder, while we are sitting up. And then not move. But we cannot do this all night! The reason we need the fail safe option is that it's supposed to be the starting point and you make changes from there on. We can't start without a starting point.
Here is our sleep log for the 9th of November.
|Time fell asleep||How he fell asleep||Where fell asleep||Where slept||How long|
|16:47:00||Rocked until dropping off, then put in cot and soothed with hands on chest until asleep||Cot||Cot||23mins|
|Attempted a resettle but failed miserably: screaming baby, frustrated mum|
|Time||What we did||Activity||Noise||Light|
|18:00:00||Floor play/Daddy time||Active||Moderate||Bright|
|19:25:00||Cuddles with Daddy||Moderate||Moderately Quiet||Bright||Began to get a little stroppy and squirmy towards the end|
|20:05:00||Asleep*. Detached bub from breast, carried to bed, tucked in, light out||Calm||Quiet||Dim|
*Usually he doesn't fall asleep feeding, so part of the routine is missing.
|Night waking Log|
|Time||How he woke us up||What we did||Time back to sleep||How back to sleep||How long since fell asleep|
|21:55:00||Soft Crying – on belly||Soothed: Rubbed back to calm, turned onto belly, hands on chest, shh||21:56:00||With, hands on chest||1 hr 50 mins|
|22:00:00||Soft Crying||Soothed||22:05:00||Hands on chest||4 mins|
|22:37:00||Soft Crying||Soothed||22:41:00||Hands on chest||32 mins|
|23:12:00||Whinging, escalating to crying with our presence, escalating to screaming||We took turns. Soothed, finger in mouth, rock, change nappy, rock||00:20:00||On Daddy's shoulder||31 mins|
|00:33:00||Loud Crying upon putting to bed||Rock, bf in chair in his room, attempted to put to bed, brought to our bed at 1:13, bf in bed 12 mins||01:25:00||Bfing||13 mins|
|01:27:00||Chatting and movement||Roll away and pretend to be asleep||01:40:00||Bored||2 mins|
|06:00:00||Movement||Daddy got up for the day. I ignored Elijah - on belly again.||06:05:00||Bored||4 hrs 33 mins|
|08:15:00||Movement||Up for the day||10 mins|
|Number of night wakings:10|
|Number of hours sleep: 9.5|
|Longest sleep stretch:4.5 hrs|
|Total nap sleep: 1 hr 7 mins|
|Total sleep: 10 hrs 37 mins|
What this log doesn't say is that I spent 20 minutes curled up at the foot of the bed with all the covers over me and fingers in ears, trying to block out the crying because I was losing the plot. Babies this age are supposed to require around 14 hrs sleep in a 24 hr period. Clearly this is not happening.
So I have now emailed Elizabeth Pantley and hope that she will give me some guidance with how to get started on the "Solution". Let's hope she replies quickly.
Oh and if you are wondering how I managed to blog this, Elijah is asleep on my shoulder and I dare not move lest he wakes.